Love Always Perseveres
” Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
(1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
I grew up watching the romantic movies and dreamed about finding someone like Noah who would stand out in the rain and scream that I’m the one or Prince Charming that would search the entire kingdom with a glass slipper…. then I realized that’s all crap, it’s the Hallmark version of love and that is not real love at all. Luckily, by the time I reached my teens I started to notice another love story that I wanted to emulate, one that was real and I got to witness everyday, my parents. Suddenly, things I found cheesy like my dad and mom teasing each other or holding hands, became something I wanted to find. My parents taught me that love is choosing to be someone’s rock, their go-to and their most loyal confidant. I realized, I didn’t want a Noah; I wanted a best friend that I loved, a partner in crime if you will.
After several failed attempts in relationships, I started to think that love like my parents didn’t exist in today’s time. The guys I was seeing didn’t open doors, take you on dates, call you beautiful or even take time to call you at all. I felt that I was looking for an intelligent, driven, passionate and loyal guy, that wasn’t out there. I spent so much time trying to shape guys into what I wanted, that I failed to find someone that was already perfect for me…then I met my boyfriend. Over a year ago, I found the guy that was my best friend that opened doors and would later take me on dates and call me beautiful like it was my name. He came packaged, as a stubborn, intelligent and challenging guy that made me think of the world in colors that I didn’t even know existed. I became that cheesy girl that suddenly wanted someone by my side as we each built our own empires. He made me want to be a better person.
I realize that everyone says that, but he was the first guy that ever told me that I could do anything I wanted to and he would cheer me on through thick and thin. In the past I was so focused on trying to make time for both my career and boyfriend, then suddenly Sage made it possible to be great at both. We balance each other out and push each other to be the best possible version of ourselves, we are a team.
Neither of us have dated very much and when we first started dating it was a learning experience for both of us, but we decided to make this relationship our own and not copy the standard of what society says is “relationship goals.” As I stated earlier, growing up watching my parents, who have been married for 35 years, I saw how they took this idea of love and cultivated into something that far surpasses anyone’s expectations of the simple yet complicated notion of love. I knew that I wanted to do the same. So suddenly, I went from wanting to be chased and stupid bickering to a real adult relationship.
In the past, I have been cheated on, lied to and hurt to the point that I started viewing relationships as a burden. If you are in a relationship like that, I promise you the most liberating feeling in the world is being in a healthy relationship where you feel free. Don’t get me wrong, neither of us are perfect by any means and we had to learn to look past each others imperfections and open ourselves to the idea of new possibilities. My idea of romance went from being chased after in the rain, to being pulled into the rain when it’s freezing outside or chasing each other around the house and annoying his roommate. I realized that love is not complicated, it is celebrating each others victories, simple “good luck,” texts, staring at your significant other and being proud of them, holding hands in the car, watching the Game Show Network together, singing off-tune Taylor Swift songs and genuinely enjoying life together. Relationships are meant to be fun!
I also realized that women that are unimpressed will require luxuries, but women that are happy would sleep on a board for their man. I watched my mom never ask for anything except respect from my dad and now I imitate that in my own relationship. Instead of diamonds, I would rather travel the world and spoil each other with effort.
I’ve matured a lot in the past four years and today I’m completely happy because I know that I have a best friend that started off as a mock interview 4 years ago and became someone that I admire and look up to everyday. It is incredible how caring about the right person can foster you into the person you’ve always dreamed of becoming. I hope everyone finds someone like this and doesn’t settle. I waited two years and talked to my boyfriend for over a year as best friends before we decided to try out the whole dating thing. Now, with so many exciting things happening in my life, I’m glad that I have him cheering me on, instead of holding me back.
Happy Valentine’s Week.
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